Home mode notifications

I’m trying to set up my spotlight cam so that I get notified when a person is detected, but only if both my wife and I are away from home. If either of us is at home I would still like motion to be captured, just not alerted. I’m running into 2 issues: 1. I’ve tried editing the home mode but all I can do is turn off motion detection altogether. Is it possible to have the capture enabled but not be notified in a specific mode? 2. I can’t figure out how to combine our geofence area so home and away modes are activated based off both our locations, rather than just mine. Is what I’m trying to do possible? I’m on iOS and she’s on android if it’s relevant.