Solid feedback @Bob454, and very understandable. At this time the lights are not controlled by modes, as you are aware. Disarmed mode will only disable motion detection and live view for the Spotlight Cam. Consider this feedback shared with the team, but feel free to also add it to our Feature Request Board so other neighbors can share their same desire all in one place.
For now, using modes and minimizing light settings will be the best way to accomplish this. Thanks again for the feedback and being the best part of the Community, neighbor! 